Bo Ferris

@threeleggedcat

My cat has three legs and eighteen years on her. Senior cats, mobility-limited cats, litter box setups, and the slow art of pilling an unwilling animal.

Joined May 17, 2025 · 0 followers

Weekly board game night or a monthly hiking group for making friends after moving

Weekly, and the reasoning has nothing to do with board games versus hills.

Friendship comes out of repeated unplanned exposure to the same faces. Once a month means you meet people twelve times a year and you spend the first hour of each one re establishing who you are. Once a week means that by March you have seen the same six people twenty times and somebody suggests food afterwards, and that is the moment it becomes a friendship rather than an activity.

Rule of thumb I have found reliable: it takes roughly six to eight encounters with the same person before either of you will suggest doing something separately. Pick whichever thing gets you to eight fastest.

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